You know, maybe sometimes she just wants you to chase her. Maybe she distances herself, and pulls herself away because she wants you to show her that you do care. Maybe she says what she says and does what she does because she wants something more from you. This doesnt give her an excuse to be a drama queen, but before you look at it like she's being one, look deeper. Maybe she took off out the door and said she will never be back. Sure, but damn well she looks behind her shoulder several times to See if you are running to stop her. Damn well she waits a few minutes, swelling in hope that you'll come out of that door. Damn well she stare at her phone, just waiting for you to call her. You know, maybe sometimes, all she wants is for you to chase her, and tell her why she should stay.

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  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

I'm sorry but I have a hard time believing this right now.

My current crush I have "chased" more than any girl I have ever known. And all that consisted of was chatting her up every once in a while.

I asked her out after her favorite class and she hasn't shown up to that class since. So basically I ran a good girl out of her favorite class and I feel like the worlds biggest asshole right now.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

As a dude, I have a hard time believing this too. why would you push us away if you really wanted something else? guys are very literal, very black and white. so if you're pushing us away, we see it as you don't want us anymore and we move on. it's not that we still don't care, because we do. I can say I definitely still care for a few girls, but why would I try again if I think she doesn't want anything anymore?

it doesn't make sense to me

  • a girl
9 years ago

I am not going to defend girls or anything .But we girls themselves want to feel needed .we say something and we want its opposite ! I know we are complicated .Just show us that you love us .Even if we kept telling you to go away ,dont just agree with it, FIGHT BACK ! when we ask you to stop calling us ,Hell no dont . I know it;s madness ,but that's how we truly are

  • Girl
9 years ago

We just want you to show us you still care. I do it whem he seems like he doesn't care anymore because I need to know he still cares and is still willing to fight for me, and if he doesn't fight, well then I leave because he doesn't care...

  • Guy
9 years ago

I just wish I knew for sure...It hurts if you chase someone when they don't want you. It also hurts to not go after someone if they want you to. In the end, you're left not knowing what to do, and searching for answers.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

Girls are freaking stupid, like damn, at least they've got a guy in the first place, if you feel like he doesn't care just TALK TO HIM. I am a girl and I just find all of this extremely annoying.

  • a girl
9 years ago

i used to have a tendency to push everybody away. not just guys. and it feels damn good when people come chasing after you anyway, because they sure do care about you. i didn't push people away on purpose, it was just something i grew to do. girls want guys, (especially ones they care about) to show that they care. if they have shown you they care about you, don't let that girl walk out the door. she doesn't want to, and you don't want her to either.

  • 1st comment writer
9 years ago

That's the problem....All my friends and everyone kept telling me to keep chasing...and I did...AND IT SCREWED EVERYTHING UP. I knew deep down she wanted me to stop but I kept hearing crap like this and now I've upset her.

I feel like this showed up on the front page exactly now just to rub it in.

  • SH
9 years ago

As a girl, I completely know this. I have been doing this, but let's stop making the boys suffer. I mean, boys can't really FEEL too much, like, they don't understand why we do these things, so we SHOULD TELL THEM, remember, THE HEART GETS HURT BECAUSE OF WORDS LEFT UNSPOKEN. So while you have the chance, tell him, tell him if you're hurt so he'd know what to do.. guys aren't good at guessing.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

He really needs to see this...

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

It's like all the other girls said, we WANT to feel needed and appreciated. If she doesn't let you know in some really really obvious way that she's not interested, keep on going after her until either she does or she tells you that she likes you. We really want to be chased. If she pushes you away, chase her until you find out why.

  • Girl who doesn't want to be chased
9 years ago

I'm really sorry, ofc it's nice to feel needed. But guys need this too. It's actually a very human feeling, it doesn't have anything to do with our vagina. If you push someone away, a human being, time after time, that human, no matter what sex and no matter your own seual orientation, that person will feel fucking useless and, very un-needed. So please, everybody out there, it's not about "girls do this" and "guys never do this" - it's about love and when it's about love, we all need to feel needed and not to be pushed away.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

This only applies after you have established a relationship with a girl, or any person, not when you are pursuing them.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

deqr boys and girls, if they reject you after you ask them then thats the answer. You all do not have to keep play the chase anymore. And people, this is 20th century, if you want to ask just ask. Of course rejection is hurt but at least you could move on. If you keep playing these game, youll end up nothing.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

To some extent, yes, chase after her. But if you have gone after her over and over and all you keep seeing is her back as she walks away from you, then stop. Because as much as you like her and you want to make her happy, she hasn't made you happy by turning her back on you. And that's not okay. So stop letting this girl that can't let the right people in be in your life cause she isn't gonna stop any time soon. Seriously.

  • M
9 years ago

boys, just take in mind that there are all kinds of people and some girls don't like to be chased. when she distances herself or pulls away from you, it really does mean she doesn't want you around.

if a girl tries to pull off this kind of bullshit it's because she needs to grow up. girls should be clear about what they want, and it's because they do this kind of confusing thing that boys don't understand that no means no.

as a girl who's been chased around, it's really annoying when guys don't get that i want them to leave me alone, and think it'll be fine as long as they chase me around long enough. personally, it's not flattering nor presant.

  • Male
9 years ago

If she wants to be chased , fine

but be a person worth chasing not someone who is so insecure she invalidates what i feel and say with her actions

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