He doesnt have to be with them but he shoulsnt be rude about it.

I don't know why I love your letter.

I'm a woman and even me don't want to be force to be polite. "Gurllsss need to sit and laugh properly" seriously what era are we right now? And yes I love how you summed the whole story and I agreed with you.

Soo instead its better to be rude to others?

The writer just described his cold words and flinched stare so..that's not rude I supposed. Better knows the real person rather than a person that knows how to hide?

I agree with this so much. I wish everyone could be like that, not feeling the need to be polite. I always appreciate honesty more than tact.

I mean polite as in. "I'm flattered but I'm not interested." Or something like that.

waiiiiitttttt a minuteeee.....writer, is this guy being cold because he wanted to hide the real him? Maybe in the inside he is very sensitive? Or he has his own reasons. Writer, you seems to know him very well? Writer? okay i'm sorry for bothering you. just curious.

I agree with this. Some girls need to understand that with some people, it won't work. Its better to have it cut off quickly than having you waste your time dwelling on any words which he said with a smile. And the way I see it, you get to choose where they break you heart or not. But yeah. Takes practice .

I love this letter. So damn much. By being cold to them, he's giving them a clean slate. An easier reason to get over him, he's a "jerk". It's poetic, really. In order to help them become stronger and not have false hope, he turns himself somewhat into a monster.

I could see him wanting to cover it up. What's worse, liking a jerk or someone who is still friends with you and gives you constant hope until you finally get over them? It's always hard on the person of affection when they don't feel the same way. I'm sure everyone here has experienced that. You feel like a bad person, simply for being human. It's hard

Does anyone hear what they're saying right now? Why're you painting this kid as some type of hero? It's really easy to let someone know you're not interested without being a dick.

Well thats the thing we don't know if this kid was actually being a dick or not because we aren't there to witness his behavior nor do we have a detailed enough account of his actions to draw reasonable conclusions. We are merely speculating

seems to be some emperor's new clothes syndrome going on here, because he sounds like a dick. he doesn't have to use cold words and an unflinching stare. i knew someone like that, and i hated him for it. it wasn't necessary. i figure people who do that have a massively huge ego and are used to getting their way or having people come up to them. he'll get a taste of his own medicine someday, at least let's hope so. the person i knew, i gave them a nice hefty dose of their own medicine and it was so so satisfying.

^^^ thank you. I thought it was apparent as well.

i'm glad you called him a dick. some guys need to get off their high horse.