Dear older me,

I wanted to let you know some things that I figured out. So if some day you start questioning yourself and some boy makes your head hazy and you can't separate attraction from connection...I can knock some sense into you. And you may hate me, but I promise you:

 

1. If you can't think out loud in front of him, if saying what you really think without editing is too risky, then he's not the one.

2. If he doesn't appreciate music like you do, then he's not the one.

3. If he doesn't fall in love with your family, then he's not the one.

4. If you can't sing in the car when he's there, he's not the one.

5. If you don't believe him when he says that you are beautiful, (and he better) then he's not the one.

6. If you don't fall more in love with him as you learn more about him, then he's not the one.

7. If he doesn't share your dark sense of humor, then he's not the one.

8. If he won't leave you alone to work when you ask him, he's not the one.

9. If he can't handle the fact that you are tall, then he's not the one.

10. If he is painfully extraverted, then he's not the one. (Even though you might argue, but you know how introverted you are.)

11. If he doesn’t want kids, then he’s not the one.

12. If he wouldn’t wait forever for you, he’s not the one.

 

Sincerely, 

19 year old you

14 comments add comment

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

Good Luck :)

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

That's really good advice. Thanks for posting

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

I love this. I'm saving it :) Thanks for posting!

  • anonymous
9 years ago

True that sister.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

I love this!

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

This is beautiful. I wrote one for myself. Your awsome and i hope u write more like this.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

Oh my god. The whole time I was reading I felt like I was talking to myself.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

All these things are him (positively) so is he the one? ?

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

What if I left us in a awkward space Now all I can do is avoid Im scared of losing him

  • ?
9 years ago

Writer, is your name Heather?

  • Author
9 years ago

No it's not, sorry :(

  • anonymous
9 years ago

So true. Thank you for posting this

  • Contrarian man
9 years ago

And guys, if she has a long checklist she's not the one. True love has no checklists or agendas, it just is.

  • TPG
9 years ago

You are right. Heaven forbid that a girl actually has STANDARDS for the person she's going to spend the rest of her life with. Gasp!

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