I hate when people try to put on age limit on love. Like, when they see twelve year olds saying they love each other and say "They're too young to be in love, they don't even know what love is."

Who are you to say that?

When I was 5 years old, I was in love. I loved a boy so much that I used my "special" stamps just to write a letter to him saying how much I loved him and put it in his backpack to see. When we had to leave for summer vacation, I cried all the time because I didn't want to be apart from him. I loved him.
When I was in junior high, I met this boy. And he was shy and sweet and adorable. I never told him how much I loved him, either, because I didn't want to change our friendship. And he moved away, and I haven't talked to him since. But I loved him.

People can't put an age limit on love and say that you can't know what love is when you are 5, or 12, or 16. I think you can feel love at any age. Yes, the love you feel at 50 years old is a different love than what you'd feel at 5. Because at 5, you only know 5 years worth, and at 50, you know 50 years worth. Your love when you're younger might not be as mature,

but does that make it any less real?

nataliefalling

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  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

I agree.. My mum met my dad when she was 13, and 21 years later they're still together

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

A FRICKING MEN

  • nataliefalling
9 years ago

THIS IS MY LETTER. None of my letters have ever made the front page before. oh. my. gosh.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

nataliefalling, congratulations on making the main page.

also, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for voicing the way I've been feeling for ages! I'm thirteen and I'm beginning to discover what it really means to love someone and be willing to spend your life with them and I appreciate that someone out here understands that love is ageless!

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

I love this

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

This is exactly how I've been feeling. My youth minister is always telling us that at our age (teens) we can't be in love. And he's only ten years older than us, and he's justifying that he loves his wife because he's older. He met her when he was in junior high! Ugh.

  • Mack
9 years ago

I think what people sometimes mean when they say that kind of thing... "You're too young to understand love!" is that love isn't a feeling but a choice. But any child can choose to love someone and be especially kind to them. That's love. It's making their day brighter because they brighten yours. When you're older, that more often takes the form of meeting their needs before your own, putting them first, being selfless to the best of your ability.

I think that could be partially what people mean when they say that. I think the distinction lies in your view of what love is. I don't think love is a feeling but a choice to be loving by being patient, kind, not envious, not boastful, not puffed up, not rude, not selfish, not provoked, thinking no evil, rejoicing in what is true, bearing all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. & that's what love truly is. & that's why people don't believe children can understand it, because they can't to that degree.

I mostly love the way you've explained this perspective though. Kids can truly love. "And a little child shall lead them."

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