And sometimes, someone never changes or grows at all. Still stuck at some young age. And so, they are a constant reminder of how some people never change. So from their vantage point, to be with that person is to be reminded of the old days.

This could not be any more true.

and sometimes you finally realize what you deserve and what you've been enabling for so long and change into the stronger, wiser person you're meant to be and he's still telling you to fuck off because you "ruined his life"

well, if he was wise, strong and grown enough not to screw with you so many years ago then he may never understand how you couldn't have been the same. Once a cheater and so forth.

it is like the person who says they're going to get their GED or do this or that, yet 17 years later they still have not even tried. They haven't changed shit.

@4th comment, not understanding what you're saying.

I'm saying that if you did something terrible to him years ago - something that he never did to you because it was not in him to do so - then he might not understand or be willing to trust the new you. It takes time to earn back trust, and sometimes it just never happens.

Other times, only with our own wisdom and hindsight do we realize that what someone did to us years ago really was very screwed up and that we shouldn't have been so quick to forgive. Sorry if this is not your situation

no, this has nothing to do with what anyone did. I did a lot of growing in our time together, he didn't. Not as much, at least. I feel like I left him in the past and we can't connect anymore. We might as well be on different planets.

What's good for some isn't always What's good for another. Sometimes you just need to move on and hope that that person finds what they need to change into a better individual.

Is this someone you lost contact with for many years and after reconnecting, you saw how they were still the same person? I can sort of relate, but I also know that reinvigorating old, dormant relationships can make a person feel like who they were back then. And if they liked who they were back then, or if it was a more innocent and happy time, they may choose to stay there when in your presence.