I need someone to understand this.

When I say I'm lonely or that I'm tired of being alone, it doesn't come from a place of not being comfortable by myself. I am immensly comfortable being alone, I like being alone, and at times I thrive off of it. But being alone isn't always fun, and I long for something more. I can go to the movies alone, but I also want the option of having someone I care a lot about come with me. To share experiences with someone I love.

It just feels like I've come to love myself and I want to share that with someone. I have so much love that I'm ready to give, to commit and devote to one person. And without someone to give it to, it just sits there, with no where else to channel it. To the point where sometimes I feel like I'm so filled with it that I could explode, like there's not enough room inside of me to contain it. It's this sort of restlessness that makes me want to reach out and yet intensifies my loneliness.

I guess I just want people to understand that I love myself. But I'm also ready to fall in love and love someone besides myself.

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  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

I think it's really stupid for people to say that not wanting to be alone is the same as not being able to be alone. I totally get where you're coming from, and I feel the same way.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

same here! I am comfortable travelling alone/eating alone/watching movies alone...I've been doing that for so long. I have so much love to give too...but I haven't found the right person who wants it.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

I've been trying to explain that for a long time. I feel like that too.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

I feel like you have written down all of the thoughts I never knew how to express. Thank you for writing this :)

  • Eos
8 years ago

Gosh I feel this letter so much.

  • Davina
8 years ago

I totally get you on this. A lot of people resonate with this, I'm sure.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

I resonate with it for sure. It's not all or nothing - its not either "love me love me so I can feel loved" or "I dont need no man". It's all about all the little things in the equation of life, and in some cases, like, in some hemispheres of the whole graph, we feel like something is missing, and that's okay, because people need people

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

i feel the exact same way

How many times have I thought that i wish i could just share this wonderful moment with someone? Being by myself isnt bad but I'd love to enjoy it with someone too

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

i feel the exact same way

How many times have I thought that i wish i could just share this wonderful moment with someone? Being by myself isnt bad but I'd love to enjoy it with someone too

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

i feel the exact same way

How many times have I thought that i wish i could just share this wonderful moment with someone? Being by myself isnt bad but I'd love to enjoy it with someone too

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

This is my entire life right now.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

I FUCKING FEEEL THIS. Thank you x

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

THANK YOU. I've been single my entire life. In high school, I didn't love myself as much and was likely a part of the crowd that wanted someone to fill the loneliness. I'm 5 years out of high school now and still so alone but I'm very capable of being independent and I enjoy it. I'm ready to give love to someone else now. I just need someone to show up that wants it.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

You don't even know how long I've been trying to articulate this exact feeling omg

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