When I was 12 years old, my family took a trip to the Galapagos Islands on a cruise. While we were there, we met another family; they had a girl my sister's age, and a boy my age. We all became fast friends, and within a couple days I developed one of the biggest crushes of my preteen life.

It turned out that we all lived in the same city, a bizarre coincidence that led our families to keep in touch. When I turned 14, our families spent my birthday together, which made me incredibly happy since I got to see this boy again. He was a little taller, his hair was a bit longer, but I still thought he was cute.

A few more years passed and our families didn't talk much. I had my first boyfriend, a high school romance that lasted 11 months. At the end of my senior year, the boy popped into my head again and I thought it might be fun to reconnect, so I added him on facebook, messaged him for a bit, and then asked if he would be my prom date. He politely turned me down, saying that he was too busy with end of the year stuff, although it sounded like fun.

Oh well, live and learn. What I did was a little too forward and weird anyway- even if it was just going to be platonic. Luckily, our families didn't talk a whole lot, and I was going off to college in a different part of the state anyway. I knew he wasn't going to the same one, so I figured I'd probably never have to see him again.

I forgot about him for several years. Since going to college, I'd had a boyfriend my freshman year, and then another after that relationship didn't work out. In fact, I hadn't thought of him at all until I got a call from my parents that said, "you'll never guess who's transferring to your school!"

Holy crap.

I didn't know why this was bothering me so much. I was 21 and I had a solid relationship, but the thought of this boy seeing me again after I'd kind of asked him out in a weird way was mortifying to me. Oh well. It was a big school, and the likelihood of us seeing each other were pretty slim.

I graduated, broke up with my boyfriend, and moved back home for a few months before finding a job that allowed me to move out and move to a different city. I had another boyfriend, joined a band, and began figuring out my career, but after a while I got tired of my new city. The jobs I had taken weren't leading me to my ultimate career goal. My band broke up. My boyfriend and I had a passionless relationship that I ended because I was so miserable.

It was time for me to move back to my home city, where I could start over, get on my feet, and further my career goals. While I was visiting my parents one day, they mentioned the boy I had almost completely forgotten about.

"We had dinner with them, I always forget what a good time we have! And you know, the boy is a recent grad too and you guys have similar degrees- why don't you ask him about any possible opportunities his company might have?"

Because after asking him to the high school prom over 6 years ago, I'm still too embarrassed to look him in the eye or ever speak to him. But my parents don't know that.

"You know, he's never had a girlfriend before. And he doesn't get out much, his parents worry that he's cripplingly shy. I think his sister finally set him up with a match.com profile. Shame, because he's so nice and smart."

Really? He had never had a girlfriend? This surprised me, because I took a peek at his facebook and 12 years after I first met him in the Galapagos Islands, he had gotten really hot. He still had the bright eyes and dark hair and crooked teeth I remembered, but the once gawky kid I'd known was now athletic and strong.

Last night, I was talking to my parents and lamenting how I feel that at my age, all of the types guys who I'd really want to date have girlfriends and are taken, and that I don't know anyone my age who meets my criteria.

"What about the boy?"

Perhaps it's time to reconnect with an old friend.

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  • Shia LaBeouf
8 years ago

JUST DO IT

  • TheJoyfulPhotographer
8 years ago

I absolutely loved reading this and you're an amazing story teller!! I met someone on a cruise too (forever ago) so I can somehow relate Haha. But I wish you luck with him, who knows, maybe he's the guy for you, the one whose been in front of you the whole time :) Let us know how it goes&keep us updated! :)

  • RavenHeart96
8 years ago

This is sweet...

  • Author
8 years ago

Aw, thanks! I just have no idea how to do it though. I don't have his number, and I deleted him from my facebook years ago since we didn't actually talk and I was too embarrassed to keep him as a friend...you'd think that at nearly 25 years old I'd be able to suck it up but I feel like he just sees me as the weird blunt girl.

  • N
8 years ago

Sometimes being blunt isn't a bad thing, sometimes that is what is needed. Besides, you are both grown. This was an amazing story, it deserves a happy ending. I wish you well author.

  • Author
8 years ago

Thank you- again I just have no idea how to do this. I don't feel comfortable messaging him out of the blue, and I definitely don't know him enough to date him at this point. But he's this character who's always been on the periphery of my life and I'd like to get to know him again and he sort of intrigues me.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

Wow! I love stories like these (: I hope things go well...and I hate how my friend always judges guys who have never had girlfriends - she always thinks there must be something wrong with them, when maybe they're just shy or waiting for the right person. In any case I find it sweet and I'll be waiting for updates (:

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

Maybe your families could get together for dinner again and you two could do something after?

  • Neko-tan
8 years ago

Aw...maybe you were destined to be with him :3

I guess he turned down because he was probably as shy as you were/are.

PLEASE DO IT BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!

All the best :)

  • Neko-tan
8 years ago

Aw...maybe you were destined to be with him :3

I guess he turned down because he was probably as shy as you were/are.

PLEASE DO IT BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!

All the best :)

  • Kk
8 years ago

update us soon! goodluck!!

  • Kk
8 years ago

update us soon! goodluck!!

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

Your families are friends. Ask your parents to ask his parents for his number. Just do it.

  • Davina
8 years ago

C'mon, fate is practically HAMMERING at your door. He probably didn't think the prom thing was weird at all (I have always agonized about things only to find out the boys were like, "What? You worried about that? WHY??")

Go after him, because you really don't want him to be the boy that got away. There are way too many coincidences in this story for anyone to consider them merely coincidence any longer...

GO GET HIM.

  • a girl who dreams
8 years ago

YESSSSS!!! good luck!! xxxx

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

Maybe your two families could have dinner again together? or ask for his number from his parents?

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

Everything happens for a reason... What are the odds of you running into someone who lives so close, in a place so far away?

Keep us updated!!!!

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

Perhaps he's gay?

  • {Sailor's Sunshine}
8 years ago

There's this guy I've been friends with for about 6 years, I loved him the whole time, the moment I saw him from across the room I knew I was in love. Recently he realised he loves me too. After 6 years of awkward encounters, an extremely awkward platonic first date (I asked him to tolo), several nights out talking about life, and multiple horrible relationships, we now continue to fall deeper and deeper in love. Don't worry about how awkward you were asking him to prom, chances are he'll remember it more as a funny memory than a weird one. I know all of the extremely awkward moments between my sailor and I are now cute jokes between us. Maybe that will happen with you. And if it doesn't, don't be discouraged! There is someone out there for you whether you believe it or not. ❤ hoping all goes well.

  • E
8 years ago

I FREAKIN LOVE THIS!!!!! OMG KEEP US UPDATED PLEASE.

  • Emily
8 years ago

i loved reading stories like this soo much!

please update this soon!

i wish you the best of luck with the guy, you two seem like you're meant to be! <3

  • T
8 years ago

Good luck, Author! I wish you all the best. Don't let him escape. I mean, he's JUST right there. The universe IS bringing you together!

Anyway, I love reading this story. It's like I was watching you grow. Just. Wow.

Once again, good luck. Tell us how it goes, please.

  • Author
8 years ago

UPDATE PART 1: I sucked up my pride and told my mom everything, then decided to message him. I'm about to send the message, and I'll update if he responds. Thanks for the words of encouragement everyone!

Edit: I DID IT

  • Blue
8 years ago

SO EXCITING :D goodluck!

  • Rememberthekey
8 years ago

Good luck :) you told such a cute story I hope you rekindle into closeness

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

2nd chances is so just so kind and beautiful , i'll be refreshing everyday for what happens haha

  • Author
8 years ago

Update 2: He responded!! It was a paragraph long response. I mean we're mostly talking about work stuff so far, but I'll update if anything interesting happens. I'm kind of in disbelief that this is happening.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

AHHH KEEP US UPDATED I LOVE YOU YOU GO GIRL WE'RE ALL BEHIND YOU HERE??

  • Author
8 years ago

Update 3: I had a job interview today at a tiny company. As I was filling out a form, I glanced over at another one on the desk- his name was on it. Holy shit I just interviewed at his company.

  • Cas
8 years ago

OMG then what happened?! Did you bump into him at his company?! (Wishing you all the best!)

  • Author
8 years ago

Nope, despite the company only being like 12 people. Basically, he responded to my first fb message, then hasn't responded to my second. It's been about 3 days so I'm doubting that he will.

Edit: Ok so he did respond to me a couple days ago! I have no idea if he'll respond again because my last message was about Craigslist (sooooo smooth), but who knows?

  • N
8 years ago

This is one of my favorite letters in here. Hopefully he'll respond, I like reading the updates.

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

FATE IS LITERALLY BUSTING DOWN THE DOOR AHAHAHHAHHHH&&H . ok im contained . but really this is my favorite letter of all time. wish you the best of luck!

  • anonymous lover
8 years ago

YAAAAAYYYYY

  • hope
7 years ago

wow! what happened?

  • nataliefalling
7 years ago

Oh my gosh. Hope. Thank you so much for bringing up this latter again. I love the updates on this. Author- if you have any???

(Also if things happen could you maybe use a pen name that I can search you by?)

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