Today I mentioned that I have never been on a date before, and you looked at me dumb-founded.

"You have had two long-term boyfriends since I met you." you said, and I looked down in shame.

"Yeah, and they both started with me staying the night at their houses." I confessed.

You paused for a moment, then you spoke with a softened voice "22 years, and no one has ever had the decency to take you on a date?"

I shook my head, and you let out a barely audible growl. After a moment you finally said "Well, just so you know, I know multiple people who would empty their bank accounts to accompany you on a proper date."

And then our manager directed your attention to a customer at the register, and you gave me a half-sweet, half-sad smile and walked away.

I like to think this is a promising sign.

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  • lvh
7 years ago

While this is lovely, I would just like to point out that it is not shameful to have never been on a date at any age. There is no reason to 'look down in shame' about that, or about starting a relationship the way you have before. Keep your head up, and if you want to go on a date with this guy, just ask him - no need to wait for it to happen!

  • anonymous lover
7 years ago

^ I really like this comment. Never get caught up in expectations. I never went on a "proper date" until I was in my 30s. Don't get caught up in the labels.

  • Anne Withane
7 years ago

Turned 23 today and have never been on a date. I appreciate your affirmations-- I was beginning to go board that train of thought, but your comments have empowered me.

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