Being a trans woman in this world sucks.

I'm trying to be brave. I'm being honest with those I have feelings for. I've confessed my feelings to five people in the past 3 months.

No one feels the same.

And I know that doesn't necessarily mean anything, but no one has ever felt the same. I've been alone in this way forever.

It just reminds me of how few people want girls like me in the world. In a world where love wills each other to keep living, it's so obvious that we're wanted dead.

Seven trans women have been killed in the past three months.

I can't help but feel like something terrible is going to happen to me. And I can't decide what's more frightening - The fact that I may be terribly hurt, or the fact that nobody might care.

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  • anonymous lover
7 years ago

I'll probably never meet you.

But I want you to know, reading this letter impacted me, because it has made me more aware of the compassion I need to demonstrate. You brought more love to my life simply by being You, and being brave, and writing this letter. Thankyou for being You.

  • anonymous lover
7 years ago

You're special, you're lovely, you're needed here. You wouldn't be here if it weren't true. You have been passed up because you weren't what they were looking for. I know it hurts but you need to understand, someone is passing up others because they are searching for someone just like you. They'll never find you if you become discouraged and give up. I pray for protection for you, that no harm will come your way, and that you will find the love that you want and deserve.

  • Georgina
7 years ago

Hugs.

  • a junior in college
7 years ago

I have several friends who identify as trans in this world, and let me tell you, they're quite possibly some of the nicest people I've met on campus. You may feel at times that you maybe the only one, but you live in such a vibrant community filled with people who aren't afraid to step out and into this world just being themselves. I know it can be rough sometimes but you are strong and beautiful just the way you are. ?

  • anonymous lover
7 years ago

I love you and I want you here. It is a scary place for trans women, agreed. But you are smart and strong and capable and oh so stunning, and you're not alone. Someday, there will be someone who will be your perfect companion. But no matter what happens, I hope you know that you are worth everything. You deserve wonderful things from life. And I know that I am not the only one who cares what happens to you.

  • Hannah
7 years ago

Hugs. You're loved and you're beautiful.

  • fridge
7 years ago

you have us here! do come back onto this site for people to talk to! we can be friends:)

  • Roomate
7 years ago

You are an amazing person. You will find the person you are meant to be with. I am sorry for everything that you are going through. You are beautiful and deserve better.

  • Sara
7 years ago

I'm so sorry for your experiences. There are people who are unable to see past their preconceived notions and it just makes me sad for the people getting hurt.

Please don't give up and never lose your hope because I can assure you that you are wanted and that you have many allies spread around the world, and that someday you'll be loved by someone who couldn't care less that you don't fit some stupid pre-established notions of gender.

  • anonymous lover
7 years ago

You are so special, you are loved so deeply

  • Talia
6 years ago

There are so many people who care, but I hope dearly that you get some near you soon you can talk to. Your story means more than you know to those who will come after you.

  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

One of my dearest friends is a trans woman, and I'd be lying if i said i wasn't sorta in love with her. You do you, love, and don't worry about what other people think. If they interfere with your happiness, cut them out of your life. You deserve nothing less than amazing.

  • OP
6 years ago

I come back to this post every once in awhile when I'm feeling down, and even *months* later, there's always a new, uplifting comment from a kind soul somewhere out there.

I hope you can feel my gratitude through the pixels on your screen! ?

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