Someone explain to me how you get over a girl you never had.

Someone explain to me how to continue seeing her and not feel your stomach turn.

Someone explain to me why we catch feelings for people we've never talked to.

Someone explain to me why being a lesbian is so hard.

Someone explain to me how you move on when you still know she will be near.

Someone please explain.

Maybe I just feel too deeply.

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  • FellowQueer
7 years ago

I think to get over someone, you must attempt to get to know them. At least then theres a chance youll stop liking them. If you dont, then youll always wonder anon.

Now if only i can listen to my own advice -.-

  • lesbean
7 years ago

About to totally contradict the previous comment but: you just gotta stop thinking about her. I was in love with a girl I hardly knew two years ago, and the issue was mostly just how much I thought about her. I would write about her every day, spend hours thinking about things she had said in class or on social media, and spend my nights imagining us holding hands, or traveling together, or whatever it was. What I had to do was get out of that habit, make myself think about other things. Granted, it probably took me a solid six months, so maybe it's not the most efficient method, but I really think that the only way to get someone out of your head is to force yourself to slowly remove the habit of having them in your head all the time.

  • In love with a straight girl
7 years ago

This is basically my life story omg

  • Mel
7 years ago

I agree with lesbean. I've had lots of crushes where I fantasize about what could be, but I never talked to them. It's easy to fall in love with a person when in your mind, they're perfect. To get over them, you either have to get to know them and break your perfect illusion of them, or you have to stop fantasizing about them completely.

  • From Afar
6 years ago

AAM?

  • Sad Guruma
6 years ago

Sometimes we fall for people we hardly know based on who we think they are-we put them on a pedestal and we never get a chance to take them down because we don't get to know them as humans. Try to resolve to yourself that she probably has habits and behaviours that wouldn't fit with you.

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