In all the years I've been coming here, I've never asked for advice, but now really have no idea what to think, or how to proceed, so here it goes.

Fair warning, this story is a little NSFW

So last night was a joint graduation party for myself, my brother in law, and a friend of ours. So everything was pretty much normal most of the night, we hung out, people were drinking, it was fun.

So then we all decide that we're going to go over to another friend's house to play pictionary. So we're there for like an hour and a half, and then this guy (another friend) who I've been into for a long time, and who I've had some extremely flirty interactions with, starts in with his usual stuff, except like, he just jumped right in, there was none of the preemptive "arm around shoulder" stuff that is the norm for him, he immediately puts his hand on my ass, which I'm totally fine with, it's whatever, I was just a little surprised.

So then my dad leaves, and we move over to the couch while we're talking to people and everything. And not long after that, I don't know how to put this delicately, but he puts his hand under my ass so I'm like, sitting on his hand, and I swear to god guys, he starts trying to rub me off, while we're sitting on the living room couch, surrounded by our friends! Which again, I'm not exactly opposed to, but he needs to pick his moments, feel me?

My brother in law and I went home pretty soon after that. And now I just don't even know what to think, like??? I can't tell if he has a thing for me, or if he has a thing for me when he's drunk, you know? And I honestly don't even know if he remembers any of it, he was totally plastered.

I am at a complete loss. Thoughts?

I do want to emphasize, before anyone says anything, that I don't feel icky about any of it, he just needs to think about timing a little more. I would be absolutely ok with everything he did under slightly different circumstances, Im just kind of confused now about everything because of the circumstances.

5 comments add comment

  • anonymous lover
5 days ago

Yes he's into you

  • Home
5 days ago

He is into you a bit but more into the feel of danger around sexual activity. I would not get attached to him. This behavior is one I've seen enough to call a red flag. If he isn't making advances beyond that, keep your heart out of the mix, if you really don't mind the play.

  • Original Sender
5 days ago

He does make other advances, this is the first time he's done something so drastic though. There are also some other factors that could be contributing to his reluctance to be so forward when he's not intoxicated. I'm his friend's little sister, and he's several years older than me (I'm over 18). So I can understand why he would maybe feel like he can't make a move on me, until his inhibitions have been lowered. But you may be right.

  • anonymous lover
5 days ago

Seems like a hit and run kind of guy to me. Don't be his conquest. That's unless if you don't care about that sorta thing then just do you.

  • Original Sender
4 days ago

I can see why you guys would say that, based only on the information this story gives you, but I've known this guy for years, and I really don't think he's a "conquest" sort of guy. This day was also the first time I've ever heard him say anything directly sexual about a specific person (which was that Shakira has a nice ass), in the 6 years that I've known him.

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