there are a lot of different kinds of heartbreak.

watching your parents get a divorce is pretty up there.

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  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

i'm so sorry. i know you must feel terribly upset, but if this is what is needed to fix whatever the issue they were dealing with, it's way better for all of the members of your family to work towards healing from a divorce than for the two of them to constantly drain themselves emotionally and be left on empty while trying to keep it all together. best wishes to you and i hope you find comfort in some good music, movies, and friends to help get through it

  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

Thank you. It's been really tough lately, and I cannot even talk about this with anyone. It's been going on for 8 years, actually, and I've had to deal with listening to and watching them fight, and it makes me feel physically sick sometimes..

  • xyz12
6 years ago

my parents are divorced too. for me, it took time to adjust. it was hard too, but not as hard as your parents divorce as it seems. i watched them fight all the time. so i can relate to what you're going through. for me, it was like finally they're getting divorced, i was relieved but also shocked and it took time to get used to.

  • a little naive
6 years ago

aw, I am so sorry. I can't say that I know how it feels, and I don't think I can even comprehend how heartbreaking it must be, but hang in there, love. It's hard, I know. Relying on friends, other loved ones, and passions can help you get through this. Stay strong <3

  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

I feel this on so many levels

  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

So sorry for you ?

  • I get it
6 years ago

I totally understand how you feel and after reading the comments I got a little teary-eyed. I listened to my parents fight for about eight years as their only child I felt like it was my job to try and keep them together (it wasn't but I tried) but sometimes I couldn't handle it and would just hide in my closet and cry while they screamed at each other in the other room. It was the hardest thing I've ever gone through and it is truly heartbreaking but since their divorce we have all been so much happier and sometimes they can actually stand to be around each other. I hope that happens for you. I'm here for you if you ever need to talk!

  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

Divorce is dreaded so much and is seen as losing, or giving up, but I think that it is ultimately a good thing.As much as it feels like their constant fighting culminated into this terrible climax, their separation will finally result in some peace for all of you. No more stress over the next time they'll be screaming at each other in the next room. Letting go of an unhealthy way of life is important and necessary.

  • I can relate
6 years ago

I am going through the same thing with my parents. It's hard to grow up and realize our parents are not kings and queens of this world...that no family is perfect. I have been expecting them to get a divorce since I was in the 4th grade... now I am 20, and it's just now happening. I thought it would be better when my dad moved out, but it's harder than I ever imagined. It's hard to watch your mom cry everyday and start this new life as a single parent. Praying it gets better for you and all that are going through it.

  • anonymous lover
6 years ago

Indeed it is! Very serendipitous as two years ago on July 19th, my parents split. It's gotten better every day over the past couple years, and I can say with much assurance in my life, this is for the best. I hate the way it happened, but it certainly needed to. Stick with the ones who love you. They will stay by your side and help you through this time. You will painfully learn so much from this, but you will be better because of it. There will be good days, and there will be bad days. But there will always be better days. And you deserve to see them.

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