If there's one thing I've learned over many years and many crushes, it is that you've got to tell people what you feel. Notice that I did not say "confess your undying love" or even "say you like them". Sometimes it's as simple as expressing gratitude for someone's guidance, support, and kindness. Sometimes it's admitting that a friendship really means a lot to you, a mentor really helped you grow, or that a crush makes you feel something new. Whatever it is...say it. It's scary but it is worth it. Nine times out of ten the person will be touched and flattered. Maybe they'll even respond with something that'll surprise you. The words you don't say are what keep you up at night for years after. They're the unspoken words behind your silent tears. The words you never said will haunt you far more than the words you did say. Take it from someone who knows from far too much experience (In both situations).

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  • Steve
one month ago

Unfortunately i made the mistake of leaving words unspoken. That was 7 years ago.......and i still think about it.

  • anonymous lover
21 days ago

I'm happy I had this in mind a few months ago, and I was completely honest with my feelings in this way. Even though nothing worked out, I have no regrets.

  • Jenny
16 days ago

I don't know if I'll ever have the courage to tell him how I feel before we graduate high school and never see each other again. I guess this is as good a place as any to say it then.

Ryan- I don't know what it is about you but I find myself drawn to you again and again. I think sometimes it is a ridiculous crush, one of those situations where our clashes draw me to you. But other times I think it is real and that maybe you must feel something possibly too. But then I think again about going to China with you and our class for two weeks and know that I cannot tell you how I feel because what if you laugh in my face and say you've known all along? What if you tell me that you've been stringing me along all this time and that that girl who I suspiciously think you have a thing with is a real thing, and it turns out I'm not crazy? i think that would break me and make those two weeks unbearable. And I know I'm projecting onto you and onto myself, but I cannot help it.

TLDR; I have no idea what the feelings I have for you are @Ryan. They fluctuate day to day, but I promise you that they are definitely feelings.

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