Agreed. What I mean to be single is I will never engage in fwbenefit or nightstand type kind of relationship. And that's the true single.

I don’t know if most are fixed on finding the one.

That only is in the movies and fairy tales.

But I think the sadness just comes from the attachment we give to people and things.

The things that hurt us the most are the things we most desire and treasure. And we feel that sadness when we have expectations.

Being happy is a choice to a certain extent.... but we can’t just say... “today I’m gonna be happy.” It’s takes time and determination.

Sometimes people just dive into a deep pit of negativity and sadness. I think we all have taken a dive there.

We get back up and we realize that being happy is also a choice as we one day just say “FUCK IT.” And make a big change.

But can we say that other emotions are choices too? Being happy they say is a state of mind.... but is depression also a state of mind.

In the clinical world... depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. But most of our moods are just chemicals in the brain released. When we are always happy does that mean we are chemically balanced?

Happy can be a subjective term. Everyone defines happiness in a different way according to what makes them happy.

Emotions are just spontaneous. They come and go. Sometimes they make us blind to the logic and rationalization of how things truly are.

But in the end.... humans are creatures of emotion first... then creatures of logic.

Idk ... I think I just said a lot of weird shit right now xD

Just some thoughts flowing around.

I love your rationalization!

The main reason why I like being single is this may sound weird but the idea of attachment/crush drain my energy to the core. ( I don't believe in psychic whatsoever). My body is aching and I got migraine. And hah!(you may laugh at this fact) weird things happen around me when I'm in "aching" state. And when I embrace of being single, I feel a bit better. I feel that I finally dissociate from certain elements. It sounds weird but that's exactly what happen to me.

Continue- in simple words; I got vexed. And I slowly recovering from whatever it is you may called it.

As counterintuitive as it sounds, I think that the whole idea of the one has actually hurt lots of relationships also. People get too hung up on one person that may even make them miserable but they are expected to stay with this person because of that whole concept. There are lots of people with whom you might be compatible, but we all get so fixated on whoever our emotions are attached to at any given time.... I'm not sure if my explanation makes sense...

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