As much as I like you, my new measure is this:


Consistency.

Availability

Reliability

Responsiveness

Predictability


If you cannot show me these things appropriately to the admittedly very nebulous stage we are at, i have to call it quits. I'm sorry.


I really like you, I do. But I am an anxious ball of anxiety ridden past-wounds messiness and I can't put myself through the hell of someone who either can't or won't be these things, no matter the depth or sensitivity I see in your eyes.


Nameless Nobody

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  • anonymous lover
6 months ago

the CARRP scale. Ill think ill use this !

  • anonymous lover
6 months ago

You forgot:

Goodness

Kindness

Generosity

Lovable

  • anonymous lover
6 months ago

Funny how it’s these same traits that makes a mate boring

  • anonymous lover
6 months ago

^ so basically you are attracted to unreliable unpredictable immature assholes?

  • anonymous lover
6 months ago

i can be unpredictable, sometimes emotionally unavailable, not always responsive, but that doesnt make me an asshole

  • Nameless Nobody Here
6 months ago

1st, can we please refrain from calling people assholes, or any insults?

2nd, the person is neither immature or an asshole.

3rd, I wouldn't be interested in someone who wasn't kind and good.

4th, I believe you, last poster.

  • ^
6 months ago

You seem very smart and logical so im sure you'll make the right decision. Just hope you give the person a chance.

  • anonymous lover
6 months ago

If I’m always consistent, that makes me too easy.

If im always a available that makes me clingy and not ambitious thus not making me attractive.

If I’m always reliable, that can be abused by those who are too lazy and manipulative.

If I’m always responsive, that makes me boring and predictable.

If you want all these traits you might as well date a A.I robot. No one is that perfect. And no one is going to be that. Even if they were they would be classified as boring.

You say you want that, but your actions demonstrate otherwise.

  • anonymous lover
3 months ago

So relatable!!!!!!!! I totally feel the same way!!!!!

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