Who here loves someone but can't be with them and why?


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  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

I say the only reason you can’t be with someone is when they are in a committed relationship or not alive. Everything else you can solve. You love them, be friendly with them, spend more time and it’ll go from there

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

Why can’t you be with them OP?

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

^ or they have a habit of calling you names and shaming you for the dumbest things. Or they are super controlling down to the smallest details.

Someone's deep insecurity can make them impossible to be with even though you love them and have tried to help them.

  • anonymous
2 months ago

because they are in a very committed relationship. so much so he gave her a promise ring. i respect their love so much i made choice to never fall in love with him, even though he is a beautiful person.

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

He’s happily married- and I’d never mess with that. (As if I could- HA. He and his perfect wife are waaaay out of my league anyway).

...But I can’t help it; I am in Love with him so...😔

  • I am similar to the above posts....
2 months ago

Except my crush is a....she.

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

A person I like very much is my coworker

  • :/
2 months ago

I love someone very much but they are already talking to someone but it’s not serious. I’ve never been the type to come between relationships though. I really just want to tell him how I feel especially after Saturday night. I didn’t want the night to end

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

I don’t have the guts to show him I am interested. I am such a weenie.

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

He’s moving away. FAR.

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

Hes married.

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

taken, engaged, or married

or on a pixelated screen

or a book

or a very good game...

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

we’re basically in different worlds. he’s so far both in location and life. im just here admiring him. miss him

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

He was my crush for many many years but I had zero confidence when I was younger so I never had the guts to approach him. Now we are both in relationships but he is still on my mind.. A lot.

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

I cant tell them how i feel, nor can they tell me. Even though it was written all over their face.

  • anonymous lover
29 days ago

I've known him my whole life pretty much. He's bestfriends with a guy I use to have a "huge" crush on. My old crush is married and moved on. But I don't want him to have the stigma of dating "someone's old flame". Plus, I'm known to that group as "J's girl." I don't want him to lose his friends that he's had forever. We also are a little different but I believe we have a connection. I don't know whether he's in a committed relationship. The girl, I saw him last week didn't give me girlfriend vibes. Plus, he was staring at me.

  • N
29 days ago

He was my bestfriend's exboyfriend. So, yea... Even though it was about half a decade ago..

  • nugget
29 days ago

He has anxiety and is sometimes to scared to go outside. I'm starting university next year. My parents are very Christian and might accept him. We've loved each other since we were 13 but I always get scared when he asks

why we can't just date each other. I don't want to start something that will halt his progress with his anxiety further.

  • nugget
29 days ago

*my parents might not accept him

  • A
29 days ago

We just met online but... I really want to see him in person. 😭

  • anonymous lover
28 days ago

my new bestfriends ex, and they are planning on getting back together.

  • anonymous lover
28 days ago

She loves someone else - someone who loves her, too. And even if she didn't, we would never last.

  • ^^^
28 days ago

Are they together? If not shoot your shot

  • anonymous lover
28 days ago

Religion

  • anonymous lover
26 days ago

because it will have to take a goddamn miracle for it to ever happen. the earth would crack apart and me fall in between before we could ever happen

  • ^^^
26 days ago

Never say never! Everything is possible in this world!

  • anonymous lover
25 days ago

He lives seven hours away from me...

  • anonymous lover
24 days ago

She’s in Mauritius and I’m in New York. We met online and fell in love. Sad how distance can divide us

  • anonymous lover
24 days ago

9/10 times my crushes are not a matching sexual orientation to me.

  • Lover
24 days ago

Mine is married and doesn't know I exist

  • anonymous lover
22 days ago

He has someone in his life that is determined to make him miserable for the rest of his life. They are not a couple but they are co-parents. It's not that I wasn't willing to try, but he didn't want to drag me into that drama. He was being pulled in too many directions trying to make it work with me and still be there for his kids. I let go for his sake, tho, not mine

  • Just Me
22 days ago

Because he is fine with being only an ex... 💔

  • anonymous lover
22 days ago

Religion?

Sorry. When you get older you'll understand how damaging that stuff can be.

Hope you get free soon.

  • ^^^
22 days ago

totally agree

  • S
22 days ago

He was my best friend in HS. I had a crush on him but he was dating some toxic girl who didn’t go to our school. She cheated on him and had a baby. He was depressed. Eventually he caught feelings for me but our friendship progressed to where he was my only support system. My family was a mess, I was being molested/raped by a family friend. I had no one but him. He made it all better. Every damn time. Every damn thing. Better, whenever he came around. I was afraid to take that step. One day he kissed me, I swear my heart exploded. He told me he’d do whatever it took to make me his, that’d he’d never dream of screwing it up. But I was still hesitant.. we stayed good friends. He helped me through everything through out the years outside of HS. He made me stronger.

Until a few years down the line I text him, Hey big trouble maker. (He always called me little trouble maker.) the response I got was not what I expected. He wrote back stop texting me I have a girlfriend. I said when was that ever a problem? I have a boyfriend. They responded with I don’t give a ___ stop texting me. It was Ms.Toxic. She’s threatened by me and our closeness. Turns out she was pregnant by him... gave him an ultimatum. She wanted him to cut me off. To cut everyone off, which he did. I don’t blame him. He ended up dropping out of HS and cutting us all off and having a son with her. Blocking me and everyone else on everything.

I regret not taking that step. Every year on his birthday I send him a message from one of my friends FB accounts, reminding him that all of his friends miss him and how much he is loved and as always a happy birthday. I still go to the same coffee shop right around the corner from his house hoping I’d run into him. But I don’t.

It’s been 10 years.

I still dream of you.

I still love you.

But it’s my time to let go.

See you on the other side Big Trouble Maker.

  • unan
21 days ago

He only see me as a friend, nothing more, nothing less. How can i unlove him? Help

  • anonymous lover
21 days ago

Dear Little Trouble maker,

I hope he finds your letters and I hope he find them soon. Maybe he’ll leave he because that all together is mean and controlling.

  • kebaya
20 days ago

we are thousands of miles away from each other currently

  • S
20 days ago

Dear anonymous,

Your response made me cry. Sadly I don’t think he’ll ever see them..

It’s heart breaking but it’s reality...

Thank you for your kind words.

Little trouble maker

  • anonymous lover
19 days ago

Because I let him go. Because it’s been 25 years. Because sometimes loyalty and stability are more important than anything else you might do when you realise your husband just isn’t wired to love you like you were once loved. But it’s ok. I know I can make this work.

  • M
5 days ago

He’s married with kids. Impossible is not enough to describe it.

  • M
5 days ago

He’s married with kids. Impossible is not enough to describe it.

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