Well, a lot of people now-a-days approach love like it is internet shopping- always looking for the better deal. While it’s good to have a standard, if that standard is too high, you will be waiting and waiting and holding back for a love that does not exist. No one is perfect. Something to think about, because honestly, you only get so many shots at love. The good news is you are young and have a lot of shots left. You seem like a nice person that deserves love, so why not you?!

Hang in there!

Sometimes the problem for readers is that, you want a reader too but they are at home with a book living the introverted lifestyle as well. There in lies the rub.

This is what helped me.

You probably have a long list of things you look for in a partner, as do most people, that’s okay. Now, the problem that you most likely have is that you’re looking for someone that checks every box in that list. Which you shouldn’t, because no one in this world is perfect, we all have flaws, be it big ones or small ones. What you have to do is find someone who checks MOST of the boxes in your list, and more importantly the IMPORTANT boxes. Some things on your list might be little insignificant things that really doesn’t affect much. But make sure you find someone who check the important boxes. Then, give them a chance and you might find them checking the other boxes you wanted, with time. (Still not all of them tho)

Sorry this was long. Hope it helps. Have hope!

I actually don't necessarily want a reader. Just someone who understands my love for books. Besides, if my nose is always stuck in a book, I'll need someone to sometimes pull me back into the real world.

Thank you all for your help.

hey friend

i'm 22 and i'm in the same boat. i've had good friends and crushes and stuff like that. but i've never had that person that i just, let lose with... you know? i'm dealing with that right now. being picky isn't always a bad thing. just means you're not too willing to settle

hang in there. you're not alone.

Maybe you're a lesbian

Hi!

By aro do you mean aromantic? Because I don't think I am.

And I'm not lesbian either

I'm just shy, quiet, introverted, picky, a hopeless romantic and more I'm sure.

You are probably a incel but just stay hopeful.

I looked up incel and I'm definitely not one. I'm female. And I'm happy for people in any type of relationship.

Just read this, and I wanted to say, that it’s great you have standards. Life can be mysterious in ways when it comes to love. I’ve been single for most of my 27 years, and honestly when I was in college, I thought I’d be in a relationship, like everyone else was..I was surprisingly wrong. This past summer, I met this guy named Z, who really turned my life around. He taught me a few tricks, you couldn’t learn in a book, if you get what I mean. ;) but we both felt like whatever it was between us, was moving too fast. So I guess, now we’re back at being sort of friends. We both still sort of like each other..so who knows what will happen? But what I’m trying to say, is keep to your standards. Find someone who ticks off all your boxes. Who you will believe that love exists for you. Trust your intuition.

Thank you for your response. I'm 25 now and I still haven't met anyone. But it doesn't bother me anymore. Yeah there are times I feel lonely, but I'm willing to wait for the right person. I love your story btw, and wish you and Z all the best.

Guys!! I had my first kiss yesterday!! I just wanted to share with you guys ?

Aww congrats! It’s one of the best feelings in the world to get your first kiss! Wishing you the best! Thanks for sharing!!