LTC thanks for being here for me since 2015. I have written letters anonymously and with different pseudonyms, but all to the same person. Before I leave this website for good and begin to move on from my 8 year crush, I have a last letter to write. This is to you and to anyone who cares to read this. 

If you have feelings for someone, let them know. They deserve to know how you feel and that they’re admired, and you deserve to express how you feel and let it out of your system. Keeping it inside you sucks. Sometimes, a person may be waiting on you to make a move, especially if she’s a girl. Men, I’m talking to you: MAKE A MOVE BROS. You’ll never know for sure until you take your shot. To quote the famous Wayne Gretzky:

You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

If you have any negative thoughts about yourself, ERASE IT pronto! Don’t overthink! Walk up to them, take a deep breath, and let it out to them. They may reject you, but it’s better than being stuck with what if’s. These what if’s have haunted me for the past 6 years in every waking moment and in my dreams. Who knows what could’ve happened then and how different life could’ve went, but that doesn’t matter now.

Life’s so short. The older I get, time keeps getting faster. The years add up quick. If you’re waiting for someone, don’t wait. Keep it moving. Don’t hold onto someone who doesn’t realize your worth. Maybe you gave them your best and even risked your mental health in the process for a fantasy. For thinking that they’ll have a change of heart. For thinking that they will want you like you’ve been wanting them for who knows how long. But it’s time to put yourself first, to put your dreams and goals first, to believe in yourself.


I love you all. Take care. :-)

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  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

AMEN

  • i see green dot sometimes but no talk, but likely not for me. im not op
2 months ago

good luck!

have you talked to your 8 year crush before moving on?

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

....what if im still waiting for the next holiday to talk to someone

  • OP
2 months ago

You can definitely wait for the holidays! Just don’t keep postponing it that it becomes too late to do anything, like I did. 😁

I have no plans to contact my person. I should’ve tried harder in letting go last time. They’re long gone and happy without me.

  • not op
2 months ago

long, gone, and happy as in happily taken, engaged, or married?

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

sometimes people choose to take it to the grave.

i once heard of a couple and only after one of them died did the other find out from the diary that it was mutual.

both ended up marrying someone else and living their lives.

  • OP
2 months ago

She’s most likely taken.

Taking this to my grave is sad, but I have hope that I’ll meet another person who I feel this way about. I learned from my mistakes and have grown since then. I’m pretty sure she knew I liked her, but wanted me to approach her first. I didn’t do that. All we did was have staring contests. I was that shy kid riddled with anxiety who didn’t realize his self worth. She got tired, moved on, and dated other guys. Meanwhile, I’m still over here lol. I have no one but myself to blame. We both deserved better.

  • not op
2 months ago

you wont know if you don’t ask

but good luck!

  • anonymous lover
2 months ago

:( you could give them the letter directly.

  • Nic
one month ago

OP!! I'm not sure if you are seeing this comment since it has been a few days but I just wanted to let you know that I am in the exact same situation! It was like you wrote something out of my own life. I have also been on and off writing on here about the same guy for years. Never talked to him either because of my anxiety. I started dating someone else a few years down the line because we just seemed like a hopeless case. Glances didn't seem enough after 6 years. I've been taken for 4 years now, but the feelings for my crush will never really leave I guess. Just know that you are not alone and I hope that you will find genuine happiness and love along the line, wether it is going to be her in the end or not <3 Don't forget about us hopeless lovers on LTC

  • A
one month ago

OP, thank you for this advice. I don't have a crush at the moment, but I'll use this as reference in the fute.

  • A
one month ago

*in the future

  • You’ll be back....
one month ago

...and we knew all that stuff already anyway.

We’re we supposed to have years of joy followed by some sort of epiphany or something?!

This is like the 3rd or 4th condescending letter like this that I have seen since being on this site.

🤮

  • Response to You'll Be Back
one month ago

So... Isn't that what this forum is for? Sharing your own personal thoughts, feelings and experiences? Not really for the convenience of others but to get it off the chest? I personally don't feel like this letter is condescending at all and I am happy it was posted. What I however don't like is discrediting peoples feelings like it is some sort of choice to feel sad about it.

  • not op
one month ago

i don't know the situation, but it sounds like you're not sure what hers is either. you say she's moved on and happy, but you don't know if she's taken. i think that if you're in a position to, you should take your own advice and contact her, even if only to see how she's doing. better late than never, and you won't know if you don't try.

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