Who gaslit and stole?

Whatever it looked like to you, I’m afraid you weren’t there.

You are assuming based on limited knowledge. I will tell you here what actually happened since you seem intent on bullying from a distance.

I met a man. He didn’t tell me he was in a relationship. He kissed me and we got intimate. Then he tells me he is in a relationship. His partner is not OK with open relationships but he wants to be involved with me. I would rather not be a secret but I have fallen in love with him. We have a messy ‘on/off’ relationship. It is pretty much all on his terms and at his convenience. I never persuade him to do anything he doesn’t want to. I do not ‘steal’ him from his partner. I try to give him up for my sanity and am very clear each time but when he gets bored he resumes contact and tries to reel me back in. And you’re telling me I’m the gas lighter and the thief? You are blind and unjust.

He sounds like trash.

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He didn’t treat me great.

I wouldn’t call any human trash.

He had lots of good qualities.

But you can’t help who you fall in love with.

Falling in love with an unavailable person would not have been my choice. But I did and we had a lot of good times. It was messy.

Fair enough. I just hate that it seems you are being strung along all so he can play the field. I hope you find peace in this situation. Love is tough.

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Thank you anon. I stopped seeing him because I had evidence someone was tracking us and didn’t want to get caught.

I didn’t expect him never to contact me again, but I’m not going to, there’s no point being desperate over someone that doesn’t really care as much as you do.

Also, ‘stealing’ would be a problematic word in any case, because he was dead set against the idea of people as possessions. No one could steal him, but then he couldn’t steal anyone else either...