Is love a feeling, an act, an idea or all of those things and more?

I don't know if love is always objective, I think people have different expectations of what love is. What I fear is that when one person thinks of love as a feeling and the other as an act (or sequence of acts beyond the feeling), that there may be a miscommunication.

Which is where disappointment and distrust set in. I trust you, I care for you, I can't stop thinking about you.

I think of you before I go to sleep, and you are the first THING I think of in the morning, whenever I dream - its about you. But, I think that's a feeling. Can I declare that I love you simply because I can't stop thinking of you, and I want you on SO MANY levels?

Personally, I believe love is something to be acted upon, and shown. Can I show you, can I put my love to the test?

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  • anonymous lover
one month ago

Love is a feeling you have

For the other person to *feel* loved you need to act, then it's something you do and keep choosing to do over time

  • OP
one month ago

I hate arguing, but by that logic...

You can intimately love someone, and not want the other person to feel loved? Is that even love, or is that infatuation (or lust)?

How would a one sided love differ from infatuation or lust?

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