Trying to change people is the worst approach to relationships. Maybe it sometimes works, but a lot of times resentment grows out of that.

I'm coming to the conclusion that extreme changes would be required for coexistence. And all of what I've exeprienced so far has been horrid, and should be expected behavior.

I'm too old for this.

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  • anonymous lover
one year ago

Why are you trying to change someone without changing yourself? Have you asked yourself what changes you would have to make instead of what changes they have to make for you?

Do you really like the person, then? Even if you think they should change some things to make it work, you can't make them change. Just set the limits of behavior you're willing to accept and see what happens. If they prefer being with someone else, as in my experience has been happening, let them, if they think the other person is better or more suitable and they don't feel that this person has to change... there's your answer.

  • anonymous lover
one year ago

Most personalities are set at a young age… like by 5 years old… maybe instead of all this change (not to be confused with growth). And you need to find another?!

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