People who obsessed over the same person for years. I've been there. And the thing I learned is that it's not about them, your happiness and your future does not depend on them, only depends on you. There's no such thing as the one, or at least not in the way the movies and books tell you. If you're longing for them for years and they don't see you like that, you're not the one for them, therefore they're not the one for you. The one is the person with whom you mutually choose to give all of yourself to the other. The one who sees you for who you are and chooses to love all of it. It's your choice, always. And if you're convinced that the person who doesn't love you back is the one for you, and you think you're destined to be waiting for them forever, it's not destiny, it's the choice you made. It's not some torture you must go through, it's not a noble cause, it's only your choice to be miserable, to be heartbroken, to never heal. You may think this is what you deserve, but you're wrong. You can always choose otherwise. Takes time, and effort, but you can do it, no matter how impossible it may seem this moment. It's the work to let others in that's the hardest, but when you do it you will be surprised how much love you can give to others. I'm not saying you'll forget about them completely, the ones we loved will always have a small hold on our hearts, but it will transform into a love that's not obsessive, a love that is pure and accepting and peaceful. With time you will become open for others, you can and will fall in love again when you let yourself. Please let yourself.