The worst thing is loving the wrong person. The worst thing is when your heart falls down and and you can't pick it up again. I think everyone in the world should have to experience unrequited love at least once. Not a crush on someone where things don't work out. Not a relationship that goes sour. A full blown love for someone who doesn't love you back.


This type of love is so pure and so intense. It's almost as much about you as it is about the other person - perhaps more, in fact. It's an experiment in learning about your heart and your mind. It's agony, but it's best way to know yourself and the depths of love you are capable of. Only the imaginative soul can experience such all-encompassing love. Only the creative mind can form such attachment where there is little given in return. Only the strongest haert can suffer through unrequited love.

this is not to diminish other forms of love. They are powerful and true as well. But unrequited love is the most excruciatingly beautiful and painful, and anyone who goes through it comes out a better, more patient and empathic person, with a tried and tested ability to care for another person.

This is what I think in the best of times as I struggle through my unrequited love. At the worst of times, I wish to take my heart out and never shove it back into my aching body.

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  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

YES THIS IS PERFECT EVERYONE IN THE WORLD SHOULD READ THIS

  • the author
9 years ago

haha, thanks :)

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

I'm standing here in my kitchen right now and almost slid down the wall on my back to hug my knees! I'm going to read this over and over again! This is amazing! It's actually funny considering I was trying to avoid someone tonight who I love deeply and he has no feelings for me at all

  • the author
9 years ago

Glad you liked it, annoymous lover. I can't advise you about whether you should contact that person or not, but just know that others understand the pain that you're going through.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

Thank you, Author.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

True, true, true, true....

It hurts. It HURTS. It's torture. But my, it's beautiful. Painfully beautiful.

  • Mt
9 years ago

Jeez, it's like you wrote about exactly what's going on in my life right now.

It really is painful. And I don't know how to move on yet. The thought of moving on to even liking someone else at all seems insane and terrifying to me. I keep thinking that there were things left unsaid and undone with her. I can't let it go right now.

  • anonymous lover
9 years ago

Mt,

Well if you haven't done anything about it, then you got to first..before moving on

  • anonymous
9 years ago

Hey! I want you to know that my first love was like this. EXACTLY. It lasted three years. Three years I gave him my everything. I stayed when I was pushed away, over and over again. Because he would come right back one way or another and I would always be there to hold him again. You say unrequited love is pure and intense, with me it was pure and intense and innocent because I'd never known love before. Now that I sit and reminisce sometimes, it just makes me feel really brave honestly. That I dived so deep and have come out alive, better. You will too, dontcha worry, and I promise you, you will learn how amazing you are for loving someone so much without return, without even expectations; and how brave you are for finally being protective of yourself. I hope it gets better soon. Though I'm sure when it comes to you as a person, it already has. Take much care!

  • Madeline
9 years ago

Oh my word dude. You literally ripped the words out of my mouth. I'm sitting here in a puddle of tears because this sparked a group of tender feelings I've endured for the past 3 years. Thank you so much.

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