if I’m being completely honest, I feel like healthy love is kind of overlooked, if that makes sense. maybe I’m just being melodramatic, but I never found anything beautiful in the ”I need you to be happy”, “you’re the one good thing I have in my life” kind of mentality, you know? I was there once, I think, dry-sobbing against the grimy pink wall of a school bathroom because a boy wanted to talk to my friends and not me and my first thought was that I would never be worthy of love. those thoughts went downhill fast, to the point where I don’t want to talk about them even when I’m anonymous.

can we talk about happy mindsets relating more to love? let's think about how we were always good enough, but the people we love just remind us of it in their own unique ways. let's talk about all the good our loves inspire us to do, all that they do for us. how, again, we are not defined by who wants to kiss us and who we want to spend our time with.

I don't know how to put it exactly, to be honest. anybody else know what I mean?

6 comments add comment

  • anonymous lover
11 months ago

Yes, I love this.

  • anonymous lover
11 months ago

Omg yes I know what you mean

  • anonymous lover
11 months ago

this letter made me well up with joy because you are so right, OP- Love is being better than you were before but not because you're dependent on them

  • anonymous lover
11 months ago

I needed the reminder. Thank you❤️

  • positively negative
10 months ago

This is great. Thank you!

  • anonymous lover
9 months ago

Yes! This is my goal! First to feel complete and perfectly content on my own, then to find this additional, but not defining, love!

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