If this is how you feel, why weren’t you honest to me on the phone?

I didn’t string anyone along, I felt we both gave as good as we got.

You may be compassionate but you didn’t make the effort to know me beyond your comfort zone and your own sphere of influence. Of course this made me feel you didn’t value or trust me.

I certainly never intended to leave a ‘trail of destruction’, but I spoke my truth whether you like it or not. It seems I burned to my own ‘destruction’ and you seemed absolutely fine.

Your lesson would be this: that to be cowardly and then to moralise about love to someone who was sincere, shows you fall short by a different measure.

We were both adults. Own your part. I strung nobody along.

Whoa, there. I am 150% sure this was not directed at you and boy am I sorry this triggered such an emotional response.

I do want you to know that in my particular situation, I did take ownership for my faults and baggage. I wasn’t always honest with how I felt and hid my feelings. I’ve owned my trauma and grown from it.

I am so sorry you are hurting. I hope that you and your person can come to a resolution of sorts.

I’m so sorry for jumping down your throat, and thanks for such a compassionate response.

Things are a bit raw as I recently reached out to my person and met a wall of avoidance, so my head is still playing havoc wondering what they are actually thinking.

I’m sorry to undermine your experience. I received a few responses from anons to my letters suggesting the fault was all mine and I was a bad person so I was triggered.

It’s all good! If there’s anything I’ve learned, sometimes you just have to give things time. Nothing stays the same forever (even the best things.) Maybe your person will reach back out when they feel more ready to respond. I know it hurts now and I am so sorry for that, but give it time and see what happens. Sending extra positive vibes your way!