That's true, if someone likes you, you wouldn't have to question it.

Legit question. Does this wishful thinking apply to mediocre relationships and marriages as well?

I noticed a lot of folks swear that their partner is so loving and upstanding while making a complete ass of them behind their backs.

Not to mention, they reek of desperation as well because why don't you grow some self-esteem and respect and find someone who actually loves you enough not to embarrass you?

Yeah, it's late ke you're on drugs or something. Then you so er up and realize they are ugly and their personality sucks

Denial is a hell of a drug. The truth can be demoralizing.

it's not a bad thing to want to love and be loved. my one hope is that it doesn't hurt you so irrevocably as to make you lose that very pure desire. you don't need to be ashamed about how you felt to move on. well wishes to everyone who dares to love and, most importantly, to love again.

Going through this right now. I'm trying to think rationally but my feelings for her have me so screwed up.

Sometimes, the signs are accurate and it’s not all in our heads.

True I've been there

I've felt everything you mentioned, OP. What really drove me crazy on this most recent crush was sometimes she seemed like she might be into me and then the next day or so would show little interest. It was a rollercoaster for me. I'm no longer in contact with her but I can't stop wondering if there really was something between us. God knows I would have loved to have been able to act on my feelings if they were mutual.

To be so convinced that someone likes you, that your interactions with them must be building up to something, and then to realize that they were simply being nice and you were seizing onto that because you liked them so much- it does hurt. I’ve been there. But it also helped me grow, even if I cringe a little bit looking back on it